Well, it happened. My cute nephew, Sol,
who is a 3rd year Let's Play Music student in Orem Utah finally hit his "I don't want to practice" wall. (you all know this wall) After cranking through Green Turtles and Yellow Indians playing every chance he got, Purple Magic lost it's magic.
So, my sister e-mails me and I'm giving her all the wisdom I can.....
Practice session begins something like - "OK, Sol, it's time to practice." then - "I can't, it's too hard". And it deteriorates until the whining and wailing win over mom's good intentions to practice and yet another box is left unchecked. *sigh*
So, recalling last year when my own Jake was a purple magician, I gave her a game plan:
When he says, "It's too hard, I hate practicing, NO!" or whatever his most successful phrase has been in the past to deter you from practicing, try this:
"OK, well come show me what's so hard." (Get him/her to sit by you any way you can). Ask your child what is the hardest thing you have to practice this week. When s/he tells you, see if you can break it into teeny, tiny bite sized pieces that don't seem 'too hard' for your child. Say, it's "Away in a Manger". Open up to it and say, "Oooo, this does look hard." (Validate his cute little frustration!) then try "I'm not sure I even know where to put my hand!.....oh, look! it says 'F position'. Is this F position?" and put your hand somewhere that is NOT F position. When s/he corrects you, (or maybe you'll have to throw him a bone) say, "Oh, you already know how to start this song, don't you! Good for you! I wonder if we could figure out how to play just the first 8 notes of this song. See? It's just baby steps going down. Let's try." Play it with your child (an octave lower with your right hand and point to the notes with your left hand) and when you finish, say "WOW! That sounded awesome! Let's do it again!" When you've done it again, ask your child if s/he'd like to do it one more time. Whether yes or no, say, "OK, I bet it will be easier for us tomorrow! We're done for today!" As your child walks away in shock, s/he will be thinking, 'That wasn't so bad' and when you mention practice tomorrow, I promise, you won't get AS big a fuss!
Then, the next day, start the same way if needed, but play those first 8 notes, and trick him into playing just the first 3 notes of the left hand! He will begin to feel successful again and the resistance will gradually fade into an unpleasant memory!
This is a great method of distraction, validation and just a little trickery to get your little musician to enjoy his practice time. It's all about feeling successful at the piano! Even if it's a teeny weeny bit of success!
And, when, in a week, he's playing "Away in a Manger" you'll know where the real magic came from!
"This is my first year teaching & I have a fabulous class! One student in particular was so excited about his bells the first week. His mom told me he would play on them so much, she'd have to beg him to come and eat! After only 1 or 2 lessons he could almost play the 'Do-Mi-Mi' part all the way through...and he's 5! That was just amazing to me.